tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5250957280327643321.post7599497735396007173..comments2020-02-07T10:00:23.786-08:00Comments on Living Well On Purpose: EMDR Therapy - Very Effective For TraumaGr8mochashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16253320965307693403noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5250957280327643321.post-34099841868580529862010-08-17T23:23:15.028-07:002010-08-17T23:23:15.028-07:00Fear of someone who can do you physical or psychol...Fear of someone who can do you physical or psychological harm is a reasonable response. Once the situation is over, if the fear persists, if you continue to relive the situation over and over and it blocks your ability to move forward with your life, that is the time to seek abuse and/or trauma counseling.<br /><br />Often, friends and loved ones will tell us not to be afraid so that we have the courage to stand up to the abusers....Mark Twain said, Courage is not the absence of fear. It is acting in spite of it.<br /><br />The sign of a courageous person, then, is someone who feels fear, recognizes fear and still goes on to do what he or she believes is right.Gr8mochashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16253320965307693403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5250957280327643321.post-17086051875497114212010-08-17T21:48:10.529-07:002010-08-17T21:48:10.529-07:00What about fear of a person, like an abusive spous...What about fear of a person, like an abusive spouse, then? When I was too scared to go into my house when my husband had been unpredictable with rage, I called a mature friend who said I had nothing to fear because he couldn't do anything (he was on bail). I summoned all my courage and entered anyway. Nothing happened, but from then on, I decided not to let fear stop me, but ended up injuring myself psychologically by entering into fruitless hostile conversations, in an attempt to reasonably resolve conflict. Mutual friends kept telling me not to be afraid of his anger, but was that fear a reasonable one or not?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com